To date or not to date?

Should a university student find a life partner during university life or should they date only upon graduation? The question is a subjective one that solely depends on the individual himself. However, it cannot be denied that neither choice one picks guarantees a bliss and sweet marriage life in the future. There are many reasons, both good and bad, to find a life partner when one is still studying in university. It all depends on how both individuals handle that relationship.

Looking at the cons, dating during your university studies can affect your studies. You can be too tight up with your other partner and your attention will divert away from your academics perhaps even without you yourself knowing. Some might need your constant accompaniment and some might be always asking for your help in his or her own studies, whether it be assignments or reports, subsequently distracting yourself from your own studies.

Besides that, some dates during university studies can be loveless and prove heartbreaking. Some people date just for, what we call, ‘for university use only’. These people date so that they can take advantage of the individual to ease their own life in university. For example, some girls date a guy having a car in campus so that they can easily go anywhere in or out of campus. When they need a ride, they would just make a call and their ‘driver would be there for them. This too happens to guys as they date because the girl can help him in his assignments and academics, giving himself more time to relax and ‘play around’.

Yet another reason for not finding a life partner during university life is that you may not know your ‘crush’ well enough yet to put high hopes in that relationship. He or she might not end up being your spouse. Perhaps that person is masquerading and is not telling you everything about herself but is only telling you what you want to hear. The truth and honesty between couples are important in a healthy and blissful relationship and this might be the vital element that is lacking in university dates.

Turning our attention the other way round, university dating can actually be very up-building to both of the couples. Such relationships can help in stress management from the academics. Each one can support each other in times of distress and need. Besides, some being far away from home can have the sense of care and love from their lover. This can make one emotionally calm and stable from their homesick, thus, giving them more concentration and focus on their studies.

Besides catering their emotional needs, university dating can improve their academic performances. Both couples can have revisions and discussions together and can complement each other on certain subjects.

In a nut shell, there is nothing wrong to find your life partner during university life. It all depends on how both couples handle their relationship. You must control ‘love’ and not let ‘love’ control you.