MY FRIEnds???

The online Free Dictionary by Farlex defines ‘FRIEND’ as

“A person whom one knows, likes, and trusts. A person whom one knows; an acquaintance.”

Dictionary.com defines similarly;

“A person who is on good terms with another. A person who is not hostile. A person who gives assistance”

In the run of our lives, we are all thought to be as honest as we can be, NO MATTER WHAT! That is, indeed, the making of an honorable and respected person. However, looking back at the definition of ‘FRIEND’* above, honesty just doesn’t cut it!

“...knows, LIKES,...”

“...is on GOOD TERMS with.....NOT HOSTILE....GIVES ASSISTANCE”

Being a ‘FRIEND’ , a ‘GOOD’ friend in that, is really something more complicated that cooking a 5 Star Italian full-course meal. It’s not just about the question of using the correct ingredients and using them at the right time, combining all those subtle, if not ‘cocky’ flavours into one complex-palate-satisfying dinner on the table, but it is about how one come to learn the essentials of when to speak of the appropriate things at the correct moment so as to win a ‘FRIEND’s’ LIKE of you to be in GOOD TERMS with them.

How? All you need is a little seasoning and the correct spice tying up the whole concoction. Yes! This means, LYING. Or does it?

So all friendships are just one big bucket of lousy lies? Not really. Depending on the situation, being a ‘FRIEND’ could just mean lending over your ears or even just your presence at the moment of need, bla bla bla...

To be in GOOD TERMS with your friends and to avoid HOSTILITY, paltering is needed unless you can season your words up to a point where even a roadside fast food tastes better than a 5 Star Restaurant. Honestly, ask yourself, when was the last time you said something in front of your friend(s), so called, “asking for their advice(s)” and in the end using them? Ok, so you do use some of them. But remember how they were suggested to you. Was it ‘seasoned’ or was it a platter of hot plain ‘ol white rice slapped right onto your precious piece of skin on your face? Compare them with those you did not, which scores higher?

To fib or not, sometimes it all winds down to choices of being tactful of situations where the control of one’s’ tongue is of most crucial. It is not an excuse for not knowing the ‘ethics’ of talking or being a person in this complex society of ours. It’s all about will power.

So, yeah, you don’t even know how to hold a spoon to feed yourself, BUT YOU’VE LEARNT!

You don’t know how to drive until you were 18, THERE! YOU’VE LEARNT!

You don’t know how to operate an electronic gadget. But YOU WILL LEARN HOW!

So you don’t know this, you don’t know that, HELL!! No one knows everything! We all learn! How fast we learn it and the reason for it depends pretty much on our very own self. So why not learn having control over mind, body and TONGUE to be a truly GOOD FRIEND while not having to prevaricate at all?!??!???

It’s your body,

It’s your brain,

It’s your tongue,

It’s your mouth,

It’s your life,

Be wise,

Be in control...

*Non-intimate, non-romantic friendship

Do you not know? Should you??

Most people don't appreciate what they have,

Most people take for granted of everything they have in abundance,

Most people have more than what they can ask for and still feel down,

Most people are just human.

Only some people have little things,

Only some people need little things,

Only some are joyous over things they can dream of but could not possibly own in their life time,

Only some can appreciate over things that means nothing to others,

Only some can see those little things.

Have you ever took for granted over insignificant things that happened which you don't make of?

Have you looked at a paper and see trees and Mother Nature instead of a plain'ol white paper?

Have you felt gratitude looking at garbages?

Have you no feeling (coal miners) when you barbeque?

Have you shown gratitude over little, insignificant, abundant, negligible things?

Do you know who you are?

Do you know of your significance?

Do you know?

Are you sure?

Are you even thankful?

Are you, now...?

LOVE...

Lady: Why do you like me? Why do you love me?

Man: I can't tell the reason... But I really like you...

Lady: You can't even tell me the reason... How can you say you like me? How can you say you love me?

Man: I really don't know the reason, but I can prove that I love you.

Lady: Proof? No! I want you to tell me the reason. My friend's boyfriend can tell her why he loves her, but not you!

Man: OK...OK!!! Erm...because you are beautiful, because your voice is
sweet, because you are caring, because you are loving, because you are thoughtful,
because of your smile, because of your every movements...

Unfortunately, a few days later, the Lady met with an accident and became comma.

The Guy then placed a letter by her side, and here is the content:

Dearest,
Because of your sweet voice that I love you...
Now can you talk? No! Therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your care and concern then I like you... Now that

you cannot show them, therefore I cannot love you.

Because of your smile, because of your every movements that I love you... Now can you smile?

Now can you move? No, therefore I cannot love you...

If love needs a reason, like now, there is no reason for me to love you anymore.

Does love needs a reason? NO!

Therefore, I still love you... And love doesn't need a reason

"When loving someone .... never regret what you do ...
Only regret what you didn't do"

Why?

Is it so hard to tell... how to express.... All that i know is actually....actually there.'s only one simple thing bugging  me dis whole life, dis pass 6 to 7 years and still, i don.'t know how or what to do or decide because, just because of a damn simple reason, that is....I myself also do not know...so u found your religion, you love that religion, blieve in what you were taught or heard but what YOU want might not and is actually, can never be  what I actually really want or believe  in. It's up to oneself... It really is agonizing deep into my flesh and bones, needing to follow along, trying to like something for  more than 5 that I never ever really liked or love... How can those people keep it going...??! It's pathetic....I am too!      When should I do it? the impact...perhaps I am just extrapolating the matter to the max but that is of possibility...I can't...I dont know....this is why also I find myself happier not being there...I litterally feel noxious being there, even having to listen. Yea....! exaggerating you might think but that really is it.              YES I Have tried to change, shift the winds of the caused seasick but to no avail for more than 5 years!       What is this!!!! almost 4 and still clicking away....Hell...I HAte this!!    WHEN!?.......

What to do....

3AM and I m sTILL UP...HOLIDAY WITHOUT U IS REALLY A BITTER MOMENT. MISS U... CAN'T DO NOTHING....HAIZ....

Christians - A thought to ponder.

Praise be to God...

Let him praise God in sick or in good health,

Let him speak of God's word.....

God the almighty.

God bless you...

God is good.

Lord, thank you for all the blessings...

Do you love Him?

Pray to the Lord and He will listen.

God will help you manage through those trying times.

If God brings you to it, He will bring you through it.

The Lord is our Father.

Have you ever stop and wonder despite all these and many other more phrases about God and the Lord, something rather important and of high significance is gravely in miss?

Most Christians or churches just stress it all on "OUR LORD", "OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN", "PRAISE BE TO GOD", etc. If you ever stop and wonder, all these... are these GOD's name? Or does He has one?

Have you ever thought even further that because of this sad fact, perhaps who you are worshiping and put faith in is perhaps actually not THE ONE that all this while you thought is? Wouldn't this put you in a state where you might actually be worshiping Satan masquerading as what you initially or now think of as THE ONE with the current booming of various funny and weird church names being set up by almost anyone?

No offence or any intention of letting any of you astray, but one can only wonder all of this after observing various church goers' attitude and behavior in life, outside of church. Psalms. 83:18 states in one version of the Bible saying, " That people may know that you, whose name is......."

And yet in another scripture of Exodus. 9:16 of the same Bible version reading, "....and in order to have my name declared in all the earth." Isaiah. 42:8 clearly clarifies in this Bible version that, " I am ........ That is my name; and to no one else shall I give my own glory, neither my praise to graven images."

Stop and think. What do you call your parents? Relatives? Yes.....

Mom. Dad, Uncle, Aunty...etc....

But is that their name? Is it now? One with no knowledge of your family can refer the TITLE, "aunty" or "uncle" to almost anyone, even a stranger! Yes!!! Does that mean that the TITLES "GOD", "LORD", "FATHER" has difference in meaning than "uncle" and "aunty" only by higher and lower cases of the alphabet?

So now, the big question of the day is that why mostly, and almost all churches nowadays only stress much on "DEAR FATHER IN HEAVEN", or "DEAR LORD" and others of such phrases and none of God's name? Shouldn't the churches be following what the Bible or God is actually commanding that is to glorify HIS NAME and NOT His TITLE?

Now that we know that they fail to uphold HIS commandments, do you still have unwavering faith for the GOD you believe so much in or are you actually putting your faith in the church instead of your true objective, GOD?

This certainly is one BIG question to ponder upon. This is not misleading information for all are backed and reasoned from the Bible itself.

DO YOU NOT BELIEVE IN THE BIBLE?

OR ARE YOU WORSHIPING PRIESTS OR CHURCHES OR SATAN OR THE TRUE GOD?

Why did God's name not being mentioned here at all but substituted with " ....... " ?

Feel free to drop comments for further inquiries.

Should I?

Perhaps i should stop blogging?

I find I have nothing else to blog about.

I find no purpose in blogging.

But last time, I was all about blogging.

why has it changed?

Life is all about changes you say huh?

I have no idea.

There seems to have alot of things that I'm afraid of doing, of confronting.

Wish I had the guts now and here.

crapping...

Hei!!

Maybe blogging's all about how well one is able to crap whatever craps out to the crappy readers (no offense) of the world?

Lost in my own shadows at time..

Perhaps only time will tell?

long or short

near or far

red or green

pretty and ugly

black and white

good and bad

GOOD AND BAD......

Slower than a snail!!!

If Ya'll could read this post, this means at least the wireless at BRC is still not bad la..

Rubbish!! Line was and is still so slow here at my block. Even worse still in my room!! What kinda line is this....!! aduh.... ADUH!!! Nothing else to say.... haiz..

All the best to everybody!!! Senior liao wo!!! Getting old, man...

Food I cant seem to have enough of..

There's a few things I've noticed that I just cant stop loving'em...

So far... they are...

Sugar Bun's Ice cream cone...( so cheap so nice..walao eh!!!)

Sushi King's....Sushi!! Oh man..how come so nice..haiz..

Sickening.. haha..

Wonder when's the next visit...hmmmmm..(droolin')

On my 21st....

My present from the one and only....

Thanks dear....
So sweet of you....hehe...

Sek sai nei....!!! ^v^

Don't waste food!!!

Please take a few minutes of your time to watch this video...

I downloaded it from
http://www.cultureunplugged.com/play/1081/Chicken-a-la-Carte
and re-posted it up...

Worth your time watching this as much as it might hurt your eyes, but it's fact!!
Friends out there...don waste food.. please!! for the sake of humanity!!?hmmmm..

Just don waste food!

Welcome back!!!!muahahaha...

While waiting for our friends at KIA,
At KFC..Waiting...
We came up with something..hmmmm....




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Ta DA...!!!

The cat is Ho Carl Miew, then, Tan Hui Ling & Chow Ngai Teng...

Wakakaka!!!!

They'll be damn "touched"!!!

HAhahaha...

Speechlessly speechless......

What in the name of......!!!!

CAught this sickening roach jus before hitting the bed...creepy crawling aroung the floor...yucks..

Apa la ni...

Messiest mess messed!!

Its 2.25 in the morning and exams tomoro!!


How much more messy can you ask for??!!?

Beats me...

Gosh..

Here I come BED!!!
zzzzzzzzzzzz

Problems....

I did not know my new friends in U has so many problems or at least I was innocent or dumb enough to not even sense or feel anything weird revolving around them, even with their new found ‘gangs’. I’m local and so would not fully understand the feelings felt. However, I can say that I should get about half of what they are experiencing or feeling or thinking in their mind.

A new Surrounding

Most undergraduates enter University with much preparation mentally, and, for some, happy while others seem to find themselves in their respective Unis. without even knowing the reasons. They arrive at a foreign ground, some without the slightest knowledge of what that place might be and the community of people there. Most people get homesick, missing families and loved ones, which is very normal to the fact of being separated from loved ones and family members for the very first time.

Loneliness is bound to surface. It’s just a matter of time before you either to let it conquer you in defeat or to take it as a challenge and improvise in your very own resource and appear victorious over it to be, perhaps, a better and improved person.

These are just beginnings. You have to take a big step to socialize and making new friends. You have studies and exams and assignments to bug you. Live just never seems right when you’re here in foreign soil. There’s always paranoia with your newly-acquainted friends, whether they be your seniors or peers. There just seems to be something there in your heart that seems to hold you back from being yourself with them and that might be the very thing that is pulling you down to the ground hard! All your feelings are jumbled up in a big box full of worries, paranoias, troubles, that you know can not be shared or people might think bad of you. You are of the minority and you can hardly say ‘NO’ for an answer because you fear the possibility of them deserting you.

Yes! All these are just but some of the tonnes of feelings in the deepest abyss of your heart. Solutions may reveal itself as time passes by, but time might be…. is of your essence!

Poor friend...

…And despite all the business…….

Yes!!! I really feel elated although I’m all stressed up with tonnes of overlapping tasks and assignments and revisions…. Gosh!!!..

Me friend, he just jump-start my brain again. He was all worried with the group of friends he’s with now and that currently, that gang might be all hanging on a thread. He was all worried even on how and what he were to talk with them. It just worries him for that gang has had some history with him and he just can’t get that weird gut-ache inside of him knowing about their past history. He was actually paranoid with them for he did not felt a gap whilst with other of his friends, apart from that gang.

It really sounded familiar to me. I had that experience too sometime long, long ago. He was asking me and telling me this and he was expecting some advice. Luckily I know this feeling. He was all in questions until I liken his current feeling and worries to the matter of romance. I asked him whether he has previously liked or attracted to a girl in school or any other place that when he approached that girl in conversation, he’d thought of a planned question before hand and perhaps after it was answered, all he could think and do was nothing! Just mere silence of fear of what he might say in his next sentence could probably lessen his chances of wooing after that girl in the near future. All he could feel was his face getting hotter and heart pumping faster all for the plain reason-WORRY!

WORRIES!!!

Then he was, like, awaken from his deep sleep on that problem of his. Although what happened today might not solve his problem even after talking to me, then, at the very least, I guess, he has been made to realize about the principle of his problem tonight.

If you could only see his face. Getting from a very troubled frown to a whole new look, all cleared from doubts and questionssss… Boy! That really is satisfying!!

I might not be a counsellor, I might not have the qualifications, I might have my own problems, which I actually do, but I just feel really glad that my experience and a little word of wisdoms has at least lessen his burden.

To be honest, I feel like I’m kinda looking at him as someone in need, someone as of my brother, as were to say like,

“If you’re down, I’ll always be here. Find me anytime!”

Hmmm….

Now this is my problem. Gotta see what feeling this is. Mature? Busy-body? Just neing a lucky empty can? Well… Time is self-revealing…..

Early Bird Gets Early Worm.......

It's 4.40am on a cold, chilly Tuesday morning.

Yeah.. There really ain't any reasons for posting this post...

Just a short to keep me blog active.

So....., well.... books books books!!! Jia u ah!!!

Relationships..

BUsy Busy busy.....!!!

But despite of all the busy-ness, I still have some time to get to something such as this...hmmmm

You'll know what I mean...

Yea..

It just bothers me.. yea… I should be studying and preparing for my mid-term…but I just felt a disturbed with the fact that I have a friend that seems to see relationship as in the “romantic” term is somewhat like pick and choose the best without getting serious in a relationship.

Then again, perhaps he just got a lil unlucky… for 3 freakin’ times? No offence and all but shouldn’t it be best if he were to go solo for the time being? It’s like, ok.. I’m with you for about a year now and since we’re far apart, and I’m here and I found someone cuter or prettier, then, I guess, after I have caught her heart, then I shall leave the gal before?